Inner Child Coaching for You

Each of us carries two parts of our personality. The adult and the “inner child”!

Only when both parts are in contact with each other can we feel complete. The adult part is assigned to the left half of the brain and the child part to the right half. The “inner child” is a term that actually describes our subconscious mind. It is our programming from childhood. Everything we have experienced,  emotions, memories, experiences. It is scientifically proven that we act out of our subconscious mind 95% of the time. So this means that our thinking, feeling and acting is mostly not conscious to us, but follows an automatism! We do it automatically, because we got it imprinted by constant repetition in our childhood. Our values, our belief patterns. What we think about ourselves does not come from us, but is what we have been told, shown/perceived over and over again.

If, as a child, we felt ourselves to be not good enough, insufficient, unlovable, stupid, bad, not deserving, etc., then we must have been told so over and over again, or interpreted it in this way, by our parents’ behavior towards us. It is not our natural state, none of us were born this way. Our parents didn`t know who they truely were themselves and projected their pain onto us. It is a vicious circle that continues from generation to generation, until someone brakes out of it through recognizing and healing. As children we think it must be our fault if our parents behave/react in a certain way! We therefor devolop a coping mechanism to avoid the pain and survive. We give up our true self (internal division) and become a construct which we think makes us more loveable to our parents. It is called the false-self (wounded ego-self). 

As adults we are still living as this false-self (unconsciously). We carry it into all of our relationships. As a child we needed it to survive, but now, as adults it is distructive, hindering us from living life and therefor also our relationships to our full potential. We are still looking on the outside to be validated, loved and worthy. We want our partner to give this to us. This is not possible though and also not our partners job. We have to find it all again within us. We have to do inner bonding and heal our “inner child”. There is NO other way!