INNER CHILD COACHING

for Couples + Parents

We may be adults in age, but emotionally a great many of us, (if not most) are still in the preschool years and there is a reason for that!

Each of us carries two parts of our personality. The adult and the “inner child”!

Only when both parts are in contact with each other can we feel complete. The adult part is assigned to the left half of the brain and the child part to the right half. The “inner child” is a term that actually describes our subconscious mind. It is our programming from childhood. Everything we have experienced,  emotions, memories, experiences. It is scientifically proven that we act out of our subconscious mind 95% of the time. So this means that our thinking, feeling and acting is mostly not conscious to us, but follows an automatism! We do it automatically, because we got it imprinted by constant repetition in our childhood. Our values, our belief patterns. What we think about ourselves does not come from us, but is what we have been told, shown/perceived over and over again.

If, as a child, we felt ourselves to be not good enough, insufficient, unlovable, stupid, bad, not deserving, etc., then we must have been told so over and over again, or interpreted it in this way, by our parents’ behavior towards us. It is not our natural state, none of us were born this way. Our parents didn`t know who they truely were themselves and projected their pain onto us. It is a vicious circle that continues from generation to generation, until someone brakes out of it through recognizing and healing. As children we think it must be our fault if our parents behave/react in a certain way! We therefor devolop a coping mechanism to avoid the pain and survive. We give up our true self (internal division) and become a construct which we think makes us more loveable to our parents. It is called the false-self (wounded ego-self). 

As adults we are still living as this false-self (unconsciously). We carry it into all of our relationships. As a child we needed it to survive, but now, as adults it is distructive, hindering us from living life and therefor also our relationships to our full potential. We are still looking on the outside to be validated, loved and worthy. We want our partner to give this to us. This is not possible though and also not our partners job. We have to find it all again within us. We have to do inner bonding and heal our “inner child”. There is NO other way! 

 

Task: Free and heal your inner child Result: Loving yourself and having a joyful, fulfilled relationship with your significant other!

In my coaching you will learn:

You will learn to build a loving connection to your "inner child" with my coaching step by step. There is almost nothing that influences our relationships and even our entire lifes as much as our relationship to our "inner child". More precisely, this means I will help you to become aware of your unconscious and peel all the layers needed for you to heal, to change and even transform all of which prevents you from loving yourself fully & completely accepting and recognizing the potential that you carry within you from birth and which is just waiting for you to finally uncover it! Your whole relationship dynamic will change. Even if it were just you, who goes ahead and does the inner child work. It is well worth it! Try it out. It`s not a quick fix, it`s a step by step process that will transform you and your whole life. It will bring you freedom and eternal joy. Thereby you will get to know your true being, love and appreciate yourself and step out of your wounded ego once and for all! It is not just a change, it is a life-transformation.

Not only the most important relationship of your life, namely the one with yourself, but also the relationship with your significant other will finally be happy, loving, peaceful and fulfilled.

YOUR INNER CHILD

DIFFERENCES BETWEEN AN ADULT WHO HAS DONE INNER - BONDING AND HEALED HIS INNER CHILD & THE ONE WHO HAS NOT YET HEALED AND IS ACTING OUT OF THE WOUNDED-SELF!

Healed
"inner child"
(Inner Bonding/loving adult/connected)

Happyness

Trust

joyful

lively

 feels loved

understood

complete

sure

high self-esteem

selflove

I am accountable for myself 

gentle

inner strenght

no inner blockages 

reliable/dependable 

affectionate

calm/relaxed

emphatic

forgiving

curious

open

grateful

.

Not healed
"inner child"
(Ego wounded-self/disconnected)

Rage

mistrust

sad

lonely

feels unloved

misunderstood

incomplete

big ego

shameful

low self-esteem

I am not responsable

critical

cold

rejecting

contemptuous

inner blockages

unreliable

defiant

explosive

egoistic

judgemental

bored

shut down emotionally

RELATIONSHIP COACHING WITH FOCUS ON YOUR INNER LITTLE WONDERFUL BOY & YOUR INNER LITTLE WONDERFUL GIRL

Finally leave your past behind and have a healthy, thriving, fulfilling and lasting relationship with yourself and your significant other.YES, YOU CAN!

Call me!

Beziehungs Coaching - Mirjam Barner